Anger is one of the basic emotions, and nature has endowed us by it. All people have that emotion from children to adults. From an evolutionary perspective, anger has been given to mankind in order to survive. If something negative has happened in a person’s life it can irritate him. Anger is a normal reaction to such situations. It helps to resist. Anger helps to surmount obstacles or to defend self. Anger always helps to prove one`s case or to say “no” when it is necessary. Anger is considered as an irritation of secondary or higher degree. Anger can lead a person into a rage, or even into violence. Everything is depending on the person, situation or feelings.
Initially, this emotion was not “negative.” But nowadays the anger is the most forbidden emotion in society. We strive to avoid any manifestation of anger. For example, we try to extinguish irritation, and we run away. As a result the problem is not solved. It is just effectively driven inside. In fact, anger is a very positive feeling. It occurs in dangerous situation, anger mobilizes internal strength to fight. Many people confuse anger with fury and spite, but it’s a totally different thing. It is necessary to study to manage own anger if you want to be a positive person.
There are three ways of human behavior in the situations that cause anger. The first way is passive aggression. It can also be termed as “escape from problems.” Passive aggression is the worst possible method of solving the problem. People don’t know how to deal with their anger. The reason of such behavior is cowardice. The man is afraid to show aggression, but his emotions may explode at any moment. The consequences can be very unpleasant.
The second way is called “devastating.” Anger is manifested in the loud and rude manner. , Curses, verbal and physical abuse, destruction of objects are peculiarities of such approach. It happens quite often in our life. Even so often that this manifests as usual scandal. This is not the best way to manage anger, but it is much more effective than the previous one.
Creation of relationships through anger management is a third way. Courtesy is appeared here. Anger is directed to root of causes. A person tries to find a solution and thinks logically in such situation. It’s hard to be polite and think logically when emotions boil inside. However, this method of anger management is the best one. It is the only way to make our anger positive. The result of the conflict will be the creation of new relationship. It is a peaceful solution of any interpersonal problems. If you know how to deal with your anger, then your life will change. You will be very close and understanding to your husband, wife, and friends. The ability to avoid conflict situations is highly appreciated in our society.